Thanks Simon (and Nicole), I deeply enjoyed part I, I think interviews are a great format and would love to hear you on some podcasts (I can relate to not being a quick thinker so I understand that you don’t love that medium but I really think you’d shine through).
I’d love to read Simi on baby sleep. I have a 4 months old and it’s currently the most daunting part of my/our life/lives.
Without forcing you to go into the sleep part of it: how do you juggle so many projects with so many babies?? Artur is (at least currently) a velcro one that cannot nap without being attached to one of us. But even without that, I struggle to find the time (or maybe the will) to do anything in between naps, feeds, diapers, play…
I really cherish all of those moments, but would also love to be able to start some projects that I’ve been holding off for too long. Any secret tips for a first time father of (just) one?
Looking forward for the next posts (fingers crossed that building permit comes through quickly).
Look up "eat play sleep" if you haven't heard of it. It may help.
After a while one baby feels like no work at all. With three, its much harder. I get a lot less done than I used to. I feel like I can barely make progress on any projects that aren't things like gardening, where I can bring the babes along. But for things that require an amount of isolation, like writing, you will notice my output is much worse! Some things are simply tradeoffs.
But otherwise there's no secret. You have to make time to do the things you want to do. Very early in the morning or as soon as the baby goes down, several mornings/nights a week. There are some weeks where every night after all 3 are in bed I am working on my projects and Simi on hers, until we go to bed (or sometimes I'll stay up later, if I think I can get more done, but lately the night is like trudging uphill, steeper and steeper).
I can consider doing more interviews, though I think so slowly, that I think I will come off for the worse for a long time. But there's no substitute for experience points (or as a wine merchant told me: there's no substitute for popping corks), so there's no other way to get better I suppose.
I hadn’t heard about eat play sleep but coincidentally we started transitioning to something similar recently.
Yeah, I can imagine with 3 it quickly becomes way more chaotic. Everyone tells me that it all goes too fast, to enjoy it while it lasts. But I really look forward to the time where Artur speaks and walks. Then I think I’d be ready for it all to slow down.
But right now, I’m just too curious about what he thinks, what he has to say; and I don’t want him to feel ‘trapped’ somewhere for 5min because no one understood yet that he wanted to move or to grab something that’s out of reach… Or maybe I’m just selfishly longing for the time when it feels no work at all. But maybe that’s when the actual work will start!
To be honest, it is a lot of work but it does feel less and less so with each day that passes. And I’ve learned so much more about myself, and about how I look at the world, in the last 4 months than in the previous 39 years. Parenthood is truly the most amazing and unexpected experience one can have.
Thanks for sharing yours, it looks like your beautiful family lives a beautiful life; and that you all have a lot fun along the way!
Thanks Simon (and Nicole), I deeply enjoyed part I, I think interviews are a great format and would love to hear you on some podcasts (I can relate to not being a quick thinker so I understand that you don’t love that medium but I really think you’d shine through).
I’d love to read Simi on baby sleep. I have a 4 months old and it’s currently the most daunting part of my/our life/lives.
Without forcing you to go into the sleep part of it: how do you juggle so many projects with so many babies?? Artur is (at least currently) a velcro one that cannot nap without being attached to one of us. But even without that, I struggle to find the time (or maybe the will) to do anything in between naps, feeds, diapers, play…
I really cherish all of those moments, but would also love to be able to start some projects that I’ve been holding off for too long. Any secret tips for a first time father of (just) one?
Looking forward for the next posts (fingers crossed that building permit comes through quickly).
> cannot nap without being attached to one of us.
Look up "eat play sleep" if you haven't heard of it. It may help.
After a while one baby feels like no work at all. With three, its much harder. I get a lot less done than I used to. I feel like I can barely make progress on any projects that aren't things like gardening, where I can bring the babes along. But for things that require an amount of isolation, like writing, you will notice my output is much worse! Some things are simply tradeoffs.
But otherwise there's no secret. You have to make time to do the things you want to do. Very early in the morning or as soon as the baby goes down, several mornings/nights a week. There are some weeks where every night after all 3 are in bed I am working on my projects and Simi on hers, until we go to bed (or sometimes I'll stay up later, if I think I can get more done, but lately the night is like trudging uphill, steeper and steeper).
I can consider doing more interviews, though I think so slowly, that I think I will come off for the worse for a long time. But there's no substitute for experience points (or as a wine merchant told me: there's no substitute for popping corks), so there's no other way to get better I suppose.
I hadn’t heard about eat play sleep but coincidentally we started transitioning to something similar recently.
Yeah, I can imagine with 3 it quickly becomes way more chaotic. Everyone tells me that it all goes too fast, to enjoy it while it lasts. But I really look forward to the time where Artur speaks and walks. Then I think I’d be ready for it all to slow down.
But right now, I’m just too curious about what he thinks, what he has to say; and I don’t want him to feel ‘trapped’ somewhere for 5min because no one understood yet that he wanted to move or to grab something that’s out of reach… Or maybe I’m just selfishly longing for the time when it feels no work at all. But maybe that’s when the actual work will start!
To be honest, it is a lot of work but it does feel less and less so with each day that passes. And I’ve learned so much more about myself, and about how I look at the world, in the last 4 months than in the previous 39 years. Parenthood is truly the most amazing and unexpected experience one can have.
Thanks for sharing yours, it looks like your beautiful family lives a beautiful life; and that you all have a lot fun along the way!